Next Level Relationships- Singles II

I. WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS TO THE UNMARRIED.

   1.      You’re Good –

          Good - kalós; Constitutionally good choice, excellent.

1 Corinthians 7:8

⁸ But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am. KJV

1. You Have a lot to Give Jesus.

1 Corinthians 7:32-34

³² I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. ³³ But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. ³⁴ His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. NLT

2. You Can Control Yourself.

1 Corinthians 7:9

⁹ But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust. NLT

3. We Must Trust God Emphatically. (He Knows our Gifts and Our Need)

Matthew 19:8-12

⁸ Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended. ⁹ And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful.*” ¹⁰ Jesus’ disciples then said to him, “If this is the case, it is better not to marry!” ¹¹ “Not everyone can accept this statement,” Jesus said. “Only those whom God helps. ¹² Some are born as eunuchs, some have been made eunuchs by others, and some choose not to marry* for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.” 

4. Must Keep Focus on the Kingdom of God. (Eternity)

1 Corinthians 7:28-29

²⁷ Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. ²⁸ But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.²⁹ But this I say, brethren, the time is short, so that from now on even those who have wives should be as though they had none.

a.       Resurrected bodies, Revelation 21-22, 1Corinthians 15:17,19; Job 19:26

b.       New (resurrected) Earth. Revelation 21:1

c.        God will live with us forever on the New Earth.

Revelation 21:3

³ I heard a loud shout from the throne, saying, “Look, God’s home is now among his people! He will live with them, and they will be his people. God himself will be with them.

d.       No more curse, Grace Unending. Revelation 22:3

e.       No Shame or Potential for Shame.

f.         Sin is forever removed.  Revelation 21:27

g.       Death forever removed. Revelation 21:4

h.        Satan removed and thrown into Lake of fire. Revelation 20:10

i.         We will see God face to face. Revelation 22:4

j.         Only one Marriage Christ and the Church. Revelation 19:7; Revelation 22:17

6.    Realize any Blessing you Depend of for Happiness will bring you the opposite.

1 Kings 11:3

Now King Solomon loved many foreign women. Besides Pharaoh’s daughter, he married women from Moab, Ammon, Edom, Sidon, and from among the Hittites. ² The Lord had clearly instructed the people of Israel, ‘You must not marry them, because they will turn your hearts to their gods.’ Yet Solomon insisted on loving them anyway. ³ He had 700 wives of royal birth and 300 concubines. And in fact, they did turn his heart away from the Lord.NLT

Ecclesiastes 2:11

¹¹ But as I looked at everything I had worked so hard to accomplish, it was all so meaningless—like chasing the wind. There was nothing really worthwhile anywhere. NLT

Ecclesiastes 12:13

¹³ That’s the whole story. Here now is my final conclusion: Fear God and obey his commands, for this is everyone’s duty. ¹⁴ God will judge us for everything we do, including every secret thing, whether good or bad. NLT

I. QUESTIONS SINGLES ASK.

1. What do I do if I am Angry at God because He has not given me a Spouse.

-         Be honest with Him.

-         Ask for Forgiveness.

-         Realign your Faith with His Sovereignty .

2. If God is all I need Why do I keep longing for something more?

3. How Active Should I be in finding a Mate? Should I leave it all up to God?

a.    Depends on your faith.

Ruth (God and Ruth helped) She went to lay.

-         Boaz was kin to her. (Equally yoked)

-         He had a job.

-         They weren’t in the Club.

-         She was obedient to her Guardian.

-         She was willing to accept what God gave her.

Proverbs 18:22

²² He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord

·        Nothing wrong with introducing two people as long as you get out of the way.

·        Don’t use God said in suggesting or affirming marriage.

4. Is meeting someone on a dating site acceptable as a Christian?

5. Medically, they say staying a virgin until 20’s and 30’s has negative implications.

6. Is it ok to have a friend of the opposite sex? (That friend is married and I dated them before but now we are just friends)

7. Confused!

·        How do you handle a sister without hurting her feeling when she is saying God told her that she is your wife, when he has not told me?

1 Corinthians 14:29

²⁹ Let two or three people prophesy, and let the others evaluate what is said.

8. Are “Soul Mates” real? If so, how would you know if you have found your soul mate?

9. Potential or Reality?

·        Should a woman accept “potential” or “reality”?

Matthew 7:16

¹⁶ Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles?

10. What forms of Physical Affection are acceptable before marriage?

Colossians 3:5

⁵ Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, ^minordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry KJV