The Corruption of a Child | Pastor Chris Searcy | 9.7.25
Ephesians 6:4
4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up
in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Historical & Cultural Context (1st-Century World)
Greco-Roman Household Codes: Paul was writing within a culture where fathers had
near-absolute authority (patria potestas) (“power of the father”). In Roman society, a
father could even decide: life or death for a child. Harsh discipline and distance were
common.
- Right of Life and Death
- Control Over Marriage (arrange or annul marriages)
- Ownership of Property (Children couldnt own property while under patria potestas.)
Even adult sons with families of their own had no independent legal standing
until the father’s death or until he formally emancipated them.
Jewish Context: In contrast, Jewish fathers were expected to teach their children
God’s Law diligently (Deut. 6:7; Prov. 1:8). Education was moral and religious, not just
practical.
Paul takes the household code format (common in Greco-Roman moral writings) and
transforms it: instead of commanding authority, he limits it with Christian love and
responsibility.
So historically, Paul was radically softening the father’s absolute power, directing it
instead toward nurturing in the Lord.-
Transforms from a command to…… BRING THEM UP in discipline and instruction
Early Church Understanding (Literal Reading)
• “Do not provoke”: The early church understood this as a prohibition against
harsh, inconsistent, or discouraging treatment that crushed a child’s spirit.
• “Discipline” (Greek paideia) (pai-day-uh): This word meant the whole training
and cultivation of mind and morals. It implied correction, formation of character,
and moral education.
• “Instruction” (Greek nouthesia): Literally “putting into the mind,” meaning
verbal teaching, counsel, or admonition. The fathers saw this as catechesis —
parents were the first teachers of the faith.
Catechized = instruct (someone) in the principles of Christian religion by
means of question and answer.
Practical Implications for Paul’s Original Audience
For Christian fathers in Ephesus (and their households):
They were being called away from Roman harshness and toward Christlike
gentleness.
Parenting was not about asserting dominance but about raising children in God’s
ways.
Daily family life was to be re-centered on Christ — children weren’t just to be “brought
up” in survival and social training but in the Lord’s discipline and instruction.
This would have stood out in their culture: instead of children growing up in fear of their
father’s authority, they were to grow up in the atmosphere of the gospel.
There are several culprits:
Abandonment:
- Fatherless rates 1 in 4 kids live in fatherless homes = 19 million
Neglect:
51.45% of 12-18yo reported feeling neglected by their parents (parents prioritized their
phones)
Abuse:
1 in 4 children experiences child abuse or neglect. 18% suffer physical abuse, 9% suffer
sexual abuse
John 8:44
44 You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father’s desires. He was a
murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth
in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father
of lies.
Acts 13:10
10 and said, “You son of the devil, you enemy of all righteousness, full of all deceit and
villainy, will you not stop making crooked the straight paths of the Lord?”
1 John 3:10
10 By this it is evident who are the children of God, and who are the children of the
devil: whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is the one who does
not love his brother.
Questions:
1.Where are they going
2. Who are they with
3.What are they watching
4.Who are they messaging
5.What music are they listening to
IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHERE TO BEGIN TEACHING…
Proverbs 1:8–9 – A father and mother’s teaching.
Proverbs 2:1–22 – A father urging his son to seek wisdom.
Proverbs 3:1–35 – “My son, do not forget my teaching…”
Proverbs 4:1–27 – A father recalling instruction from his own father, and passing it on.
Proverbs 5:1–23 – A father warning against adultery.
Proverbs 6:1–35 – Instruction on pledges, laziness, and adultery.
Proverbs 7:1–27 – A father teaching his son about the dangers of the adulteress.
Proverbs 8–9 – Wisdom herself calling as a teacher (parental imagery is still in the
background).
Proverbs 10:1 – Transition point: “A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a
sorrow to his mother.”
How important is this to God?
It why he established a covenant with Abraham
Genesis 18:17-19
17 The Lord said, “Shall I hide from Abraham what I am about to do, 18 seeing that
Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth
shall be blessed in him? 19 For I have chosen him, that he may command his children
and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing righteousness and
justice, so that the Lord may bring to Abraham what he has promised him.”