Your Intimacy Blueprint: 7 Levels of Relationship with God | Bishop Kyle

Your Intimacy Blueprint: 7 Levels of Relationship with God

1. Servant – Obedience Without Intimacy

John 15:15

“No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing…”

• Identity rooted in doing, not knowing.

• Limited understanding of God’s heart.

• Relationship defined by duty, not dialogue.

• Common among early believers or those stuck in legalism.

Steward – Trust with Responsibility, Still at a Distance

1 Cor 4:2

“Moreover it is required in stewards that one be found faithful.”

• Entrusted with resources or assignments.

• Operates in God’s house but not fully in God’s heart.

• May know God’s instructions

2. Friend – Access to Secrets and Heart Motives

John 15:15

No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have

called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you

• Moves from obedience to relationship.

• God shares His purposes and plans

• Involves vulnerability, shared values, and divine trust.

3. Child – Born Into the Family, Loved Without Earning

John 1:12

But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those

who believe in His name.

• Identity is given, not earned.

• Can approach God with confidence (Rom. 8:15 – “Abba, Father”).

• Still growing in maturity and understanding.

The child knows they are loved and accept it thou they are still growing

Ex. Mary

Luke 1:38

Then Mary said, “Behold the maidservant of the Lord! Let it be to me according to your

word.” And the angel departed from her

4. Son – Matured Identity, Heir with Responsibility

Luke 2:49

And He said to them, “Why did you seek Me? Did you not know that I must be about My

Father’s business?”

Gal 4:1-2;7

Now I say that the heir, as long as he is a child, does not differ at all from a slave, though he is

master of all, 2  but is under guardians and stewards until the time appointed by the father….

7  Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ.

• Reflects God’s character and carries His name.

• Moves from receiving to representing.

• Knows the Father’s business

Sons are trusted not just with blessings—but with burden

Ex. Jesus at 12 Years Old…

5. Bride – Intimacy Rooted in Covenant Love

Isaiah 54:5

For your Maker is your husband, The LORD of hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy

One of Israel;

• Deepest emotional, spiritual, and covenantal intimacy.

• Marked by desire, delight, and mutual pursuit (Song of Songs).

• The Bride waits, longs, and prepares for union.

 The bride shares in God’s heart, dreams, and inheritance.

6. Habitation of God

Eph 2:22

  in whom you also are being built together for a dwelling place of God in the Spirit

John 14:23

“If anyone loves me… we will come to him and make our home with him.”

• Constant communion; no separation.

• God’s presence abides, not just visits.

• Life becomes an overflow of union, not effort.

This is the goal of intimacy—God dwelling fully in a surrendered life.

Ex. Paul the Apostle

.

GAL 2:20

I AM CRUCIFIED WITH CHRIST, NEVERTHELESS I LIVE BUT CHRIST LIVES IN ME AND THE

LIFE I NOW LIVE IN THE FLESH I LIVE BY THE FAITH IN THE SON OF GOD WHO LOVED ME AND

GAVE HIMSELF FOR ME

Progression Through the 7 Levels of Intimacy with God

From Servant to Habitation

1. From Servant → Steward

Key Shift: From obedience out of duty to trustworthy responsibility

Steps to Grow:

• Develop Faithfulness: Be consistent in small assignments (Luke

16:10)

• Serve with Integrity: Do what’s right even when unseen (Col. 3:23)

• Seek Understanding: Ask not just what God wants, but why

Mindset Change: “I don’t just work for God—I manage what belongs to Him.”

2. From Steward → Friend

Key Shift: From manager to partner in relationship

Steps to Grow:

• Prioritize Presence Over Performance: Spend time with God not just

in

service, but in stillness (Luke 10:42)

• Cultivate the Fear of the Lord: Friendship with God is for those who

reverence Him (Ps. 25:14)

• Pursue Transparency: Speak honestly and listen deeply in prayer

Mindset Change: “God doesn’t just trust me with things—He trusts me with His

thoughts.”

3. From Friend → Child

Key Shift: From access to identity

Steps to Grow:

• Receive, Don’t Just Respond: Stop trying to earn love—embrace it

(John

1:12)

• Let God Father You: Invite Him into emotional and soul wounds for

healing (Rom. 8:15)

• Rest in Acceptance: Know you belong even when you’re not

producing

Mindset Change: “I’m not just close to God—I belong to Him.”

Ex. Love Slaves

4. From Child → Son (or Daughter)

Key Shift: From receiving love to reflecting God’s heart

Steps to Grow:

• Embrace Responsibility: Sons carry the Father’s mission (Luke 2:49)

• Submit to Correction: Maturity comes through discipline (Heb.

12:6–11)

• Walk in the Spirit: Learn to be led, not just loved (Rom. 8:14)

Mindset Change: “I’m growing up in God to look like Him and carry His name.”

5. From Son → Bride

Key Shift: From identity to intimacy

Steps to Grow:

• Cultivate Desire for God Himself: Not His gifts, His presence (Psalm

42:1–

2)

• Let Love Refine You: The Bride makes herself ready (Rev. 19:7)

• Wait Well: Embrace seasons of longing and preparation

Mindset Change: “I love Him with my whole being, and I live to bring Him delight.”

6. From Bride → Habitation

Key Shift: From covenant relationship to complete surrender and oneness

Steps to Grow:

• Die to Self Daily: Allow Christ to live fully through you (Gal. 2:20)

• Host His Presence Constantly: Live aware of and yielded to the Holy

Spirit (John 14:23)

• Embody His Mission: Live as His vessel, surrendered to His will

(Phil. 1:21)

Mindset Change: “I no longer live for myself—my life is the resting place of God.”